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Posts: 1,137Posted 16 years ago #I'm going through that typical phase right now, as a young youth, a 16 year old. I always thought that it was bullshizzle for some Nirvana motherfuckers but it's for sure real. My parents are way too strict and I'm stressin' hard about this college sh!t. Did y'all feel the same way? What were your biggest issues? -
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Posts: 1,874Posted 16 years ago #YOUNG BLOOD!!! Ha ha... you know what, the single most important piece of advice I was never given when i was sixteen? That life will change significantly for you over the next 4 years, and the next 4 years after that. I'm 25, and i look back at when I was sixteen, and I'm like, damn I didn't know sh!t about anything, and you'll probably be the same, but everyone is like that, so don't stress. Plus your folks are probably right, remember, Knowledge Reigns Supreme... Another good bit of advice i think is rarely given to the youth is that it's totally cool to make mistakes, because that's how you learn. Enough patronising from me, good luck young blood. -
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Posts: 34Posted 16 years ago #Knowledge reigns supreme! I wish someone (KRS-One) would of told me that when I was 16, the strange thing is.....i've learnt so much more since I left school nearly 5-6 years ago. Probably because I was more interested in Music, Basketball and females.
Life always straightens it's self out......You just have to learn from your mistakes. -
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Posts: 1,137Posted 16 years ago #Haha, thanks for the advice guys. I think ima just turn all my jams up to 11 for the time being. That should get me through high school for the time being. -
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Posts: 3,255Posted 16 years ago #This sounds strange, but I'd say that the biggest thing to remember growing up is to not become bitter about sh*t. Like, know what aspects of your psyche to keep young and innocent and wild, and what parts of your brain to reinforce and mature into. I'd say that teenagers are the most consistently brutal people to each other, so just remember that none of them (with rare exceptions) have their sh!t on straight yet either.
Personally, I had a bad time as a teen; I was so immersed in learning, music, and video games (SNES, y'all), that I neglected my social life and was just an oddball who had acquaintances in every clique, but no good friends... I'm probably not the best person to advise on the matter. -
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Posts: 1,137Posted 16 years ago #SactownConnection said: This sounds strange, but I'd say that the biggest thing to remember growing up is to not become bitter about sh*t. Like, know what aspects of your psyche to keep young and innocent and wild, and what parts of your brain to reinforce and mature into. I'd say that teenagers are the most consistently brutal people to each other, so just remember that none of them (with rare exceptions) have their sh!t on straight yet either.
Personally, I had a bad time as a teen; I was so immersed in learning, music, and video games (SNES, y'all), that I neglected my social life and was just an oddball who had acquaintances in every clique, but no good friends... I'm probably not the best person to advise on the matter.
I feel like that mirrors perfectly what I'm going through right now. Like, unless it's music/comedy/film/books/friends related I'm really not happy. And it's weird too because in high school the emotional maturity I feel is all over the map.
I definitely feel you on the clique thing. Except, not to brag, I've got good friends in multiple groups, which is good because that allows me to befriend more people, stay true to a more eclectic personality and grow.
It still sucks thought because I feel like I'm the only kid in my school that is legitimately pissed off. -
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Posts: 654Posted 16 years ago #Same here.
Going through almost exactly the same things, and experiencing almost the exact same emotions, as described by Sactown.
Overall, I'm alright, hangin' in there, but things can be pretty confusing at times, though.
I'm kind of a loner, for the very simple reason, I do not follow the grey masses.
Very different interests, than everyone else, so basically you have no one to share feelings/emotions etc. with. (quite thankful for this board)
Don't know what it's like over there (prolly not very different), but people over here quickly get to hating when you're different, guess it's wrong being an individual nowadays. -
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Posts: 1,137Posted 16 years ago #EarthTraveler said: Same here.
Going through almost exactly the same things, and experiencing almost the exact same emotions, as described by Sactown.
Overall, I'm alright, hangin' in there, but things can be pretty confusing at times, though.
I'm kind of a loner, for the very simple reason, I do not follow the grey masses.
Very different interests, than everyone else, so basically you have no one to share feelings/emotions etc. with. (quite thankful for this board)
Don't know what it's like over there (prolly not very different), but people over here quickly get to hating when you're different, guess it's wrong being an individual nowadays.
Haha my sentiments exactly. It's good to see someone else my age that feels this. And yes, being different is in general not a good thing, especially at a school full of sheltered suburban kids and their xenophobic parents.
Btw I'm not trying to turn this into a "I have so many problems" thread, but I feel like this is something everyone can relate to, right? -
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Posts: 3,255Posted 16 years ago #trenchmc said:
I can definitely relate to this. Surburbia sucks ass, and being different/unique can get you a lot of sh!t...EarthTraveler said: Same here.
Going through almost exactly the same things, and experiencing almost the exact same emotions, as described by Sactown.
Overall, I'm alright, hangin' in there, but things can be pretty confusing at times, though.
I'm kind of a loner, for the very simple reason, I do not follow the grey masses.
Very different interests, than everyone else, so basically you have no one to share feelings/emotions etc. with. (quite thankful for this board)
Don't know what it's like over there (prolly not very different), but people over here quickly get to hating when you're different, guess it's wrong being an individual nowadays.
Haha my sentiments exactly. It's good to see someone else my age that feels this. And yes, being different is in general not a good thing, especially at a school full of sheltered suburban kids and their xenophobic parents.
Btw I'm not trying to turn this into a "I have so many problems" thread, but I feel like this is something everyone can relate to, right?
Funniest thing is that, if you are different in certain ways, you can get a lot of fascination too. I found that a lot of people were drawn to me in the beginning stages of our friendship, but as they got to know me, the fascination wore off and they were left with the differences. They weren't willing to sacrifice their stance on things to explore what I had to offer, so we just drifted apart, and I was left with a bunch of acquaintances.
Another big issue about being different: don't let it turn into ego on your part. For a brief moment, I got preachy as f*** about how trends and popularity and everything are these horrible things, and I was essentially trying to flaunt my differences as "better" in some ways (be the fact that they were into britney spears or jock-assholes)... yes, at one point in high school, I was even trying to stop kids from social drinking/drugs and trying to get them focused on schoolwork/inner reflection/maturity.
I ran into a wall with this issue, though. Not only was I alienating myself from other people (hating isn't good no matter where you're coming from), but I realized I was f***ing up just as much as (if not more than) the trendy or popular people. Now I just say "f*** it" and live my life and let people live theirs (sh!t, I'll even have a drink now and then), and it all works out.
I still have the same issues with nonconformity, but they don't bug me as much. My tastes are still way different than other people out there, but I don't hold myself above (well... except for knowing that the P is a superior musical taste
); I just realize that what works for me won't work for everyone.
I think the key word EarthTraveler brought up was "individual." It's not about equality, but diversity. Any idiot can claim that things are equal, but it takes a bigger person to respect another person's view. -
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Posts: 3,255Posted 16 years ago #Oh, and just to clarify the "drink every now and then" thing I just said ('cause I knew it'd come up at some point on this forum), I actually don't smoke or toke, and I don't drink much either. Before you disqualify me from listening to "Zignaflyinblow" or "Beer" ever again, peep my reasons
Smoking: Grandma died from highly invasive lung cancer back in '96 (smoked all her life, even after she was diagnosed), and she went through hell, big time. Watching it all affected me (especially when she started crying while she was telling me not to smoke). My bros smoke though, so maybe I'm just being a wimp.
Toking: If I'm aiming to be a CSI/Criminalist sometime soon, then we're talking drug tests out the ass, and even though I've been around it my whole life, I don't want to lose a career choice over it.
Drinking: I have Non-Alcoholic Fatty Liver Disease (NAFLD; "Fatty Liver"), which basically means I have a semi-compromised liver, and drinking even moderate amounts on a regular basis could basically give me cirrhosis/hepatitis/diabetes... so I just drink every now and then. -
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Posts: 1,874Posted 16 years ago #Man listenin to you young bloods takes me back. I was a total geek at school, the bottom of the social ladder, jimmy mc-nae-mates ha ha. But it all changes as soon as you leave school. Now i'm the goddam daddy mac... some people take longer than others to develop good social skills, some people never develop social skills. I swear to god, if your having a hard time at school, in 10 years you'll look back and laugh, and be like wtf was that all about.
The most popular kids at school, the bullies the jocks the pretty girls, they ain't sh!t now. Most of the ones i've seen recently are in dead end jobs, with hundreds of kids, still going on about the f*cking school days, they haven't moved on at all. The really geeky dudes i used to know are now running businesses, owning clubs, making money, ya get me? So it's actually the geeks who inherit the earth, not the meeks
Just remember young bloods, there's a whole world out there post high school that you will flourish in... no doubt... -
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Posts: 1,137Posted 16 years ago #Wow, I have a lot to respond to, Dodo and Sactown. I'm definitely feeling both of you guys a lot. Sactown, I'm definitely mirroring you at this age it's kind of scary. I mean, I've got some disaffected friends that I kick it with, we rag on the jock assholes and the prep f***s and it makes it better temporarily. And yes I do criticize pop culture too much for my tastes, I don't really like the fact that I physically can not take radio any more, and I'm just a cynical little so and so.
What were your guys' release methods? Therapist? Music? Books?
Got any faves that got you through the tough times? -
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Posts: 3,255Posted 16 years ago #you smoke dodo? said: The most popular kids at school, the bullies the jocks the pretty girls, they ain't sh!t now. Most of the ones i've seen recently are in dead end jobs, with hundreds of kids, still going on about the f*cking school days, they haven't moved on at all. The really geeky dudes i used to know are now running businesses, owning clubs, making money, ya get me? So it's actually the geeks who inherit the earth, not the meeks
Agreed
Just remember young bloods, there's a whole world out there post high school that you will flourish in... no doubt...
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